a response to a disgruntled fan, her words are in bold and you can see her exact comments in my twitter mentions. i’ve been accused of of misogyny before and i guess i couldn’t let it go this time because i care very deeply about these issues. i’d like to take a second and defend myself and my words. it’s not easy being misunderstood:
she said: I’ll take back my homphobic comment, but not the misogynist one. A lot of your songs involve addressing women as objects for male pleasure, nothing more.
really? as far as i can tell most of these songs are about commitment or lack there of. in the beginning, there is more parody than there is now. as time has passed, the music has become more about me and less about hip hop, as i don’t call women bitches or ho’s or objectifiy them in real life. you can ask my fiancee how i address her and treat her, or ask my mother, or my nieces, or all the female fans that i write on a daily basis when they write me with their problems.
if you need a clue that this music isn’t serious let me draw your attention to the fact that my voice is high (often compared to a girl’s or a little kid’s) and i’m trying to sound not only tough but sexually capable.
the music is mainly a joke with touches of truth, my female fans know that i respect them. and just because i talk about sex doesn’t mean sex is bad. often times both people are coming.
cookie breath: “i love the way she talks i love the stories she tells” here i appreciate the female mind.
carebear: “i’m gonna repair your broken heart, no more sad solitaire, i won’t decline because in time i’ll be true blue.” (commitment) “what makes (life) worth while is your beautiful smile i can’t conceive the life i’d lead if you would leave then i would die.” here i talk about how meaningful women’s presence in my life can be.
yacht birds: after three verses about three different girls i get excited at the fact that “she was the first one to bring over a tooth brush” (longs for commitment)
check the ring yo: (longs for commitment) uses bitch and ho, hip hop lingo, to communicate my frustration at not finding a mate. “fuck these hater bitches” is something i would never say in real in life, and obviously the main character is exaggerating, because these women don’t hate him, they are just married. his view is warped because he feels frustrate, hopeless and alone.
nrrrd grrrl: likes a girl who is a wallflower not the promiscuous girls in the front row vying for attention. likes that she is shy, wordy, verbose, speaks of her worth, feels like she doesn’t deserve the crap she gets in life. “she’s in my heart and in my mind” listens to her pop culture recommendations, but it’s hard to keep up with because she’s smarter than him. she’s romantic and has anxiety attacks. “say third base right to her face and she will be like be gone,” she’s not promiscuous. “i’ll remember we connected (in a platonic way) and how that happens so rarely.” appreciates the girl without sex ever coming into the equation.
falynn (as much as I still like this song, it normalizes stalking, which is a reality for a surprising amount of women and girls): is about crushing on a girl not stalking. it’s about being nervous around the girl you like. “we’ll get married and have babies and we’ll all wear matching sweaters (commitment)” she doesn’t need another stalker or intruder to pursue her.” the main character is conscious of stalkers and doesn’t want her to deal with those feelings, especially if they are created by him.
restart: “i thought we’d always be together (commitment) you’re the one that has my heart.” i apologzie for cheating and taking the relationship for granted “wanting something better without knowing that you’ve got it” i talk about MY mistakes and my short comings. “communicate with your mate cuz she might take flight, synchronize your skype negotitate a netflix night” ie take it slow, keep your distance, don’t rush into it, give it time.
japanese maid - this song satirizes the sexism in japanese otaku culture and anime. i’m reporting on an existing phenomenon because i’m an artist who talks about pop culture events like star wars, anime, harry potter. i also parody hip hop and it’s focus on sex and drugs. japanese maids are a trend in japan. i’ve put myself in the japanese nerd’s place. i use the word subjugate to cut to the heart of the matter. believe it or not i’m on your side. you have to realize that sometimes in my songs i play characters, this doesn’t mean i am these characters, but if you believe that i’m talking about my life, it does mean i fooled you. i am not into subjugating women or making them slaves. i am also not boba fett.
awesome fucker: some songs are unapologetic about sex. coming from a sexually repressed household i used the language of hip hop to talk about sex. “it’s how jesus built her” is a reference to the fact that we are at times sexual beings and there is nothing wrong with that. should sex never be mentioned when it’s such a huge part of life? it’s where we all come from after all. i want people to have sex and not feel shame or guilt about it. i also want them to masturbate without guilt. i believe in sexual freedom.
pw/om is a positive portayal of a mother trying to protect her son from partying too soon. the character is disrespectful towards his mother who threatens to take away his porn. it’s not me it’s a character that doesn’t understand his mother is trying to protect him. he is a fool.
“i’ll require a throne and hoes, lots of dro.” hip hop parody.
here groupies throw thongs and bras i take them home and have sex with them with a condom. these groupies see me as an object to be conquested sexually. i take them up on their advances. is it objectification if both parties are consenting? the entire song is fantasy. i don’t cause world war 3 and i don’t often take women home after the show. before i was in a committed relationship, maybe once or twice a tour. more likely never than not. i’m sure there’s no objectification in rock n roll, or neo folk or dubstep. these artists definitely aren’t promiscuous. just rappers.
you said: Bitches usually refers to women who voice their complaints or women who are angry, as if it is a bad thing for women to voice their complaints or to be angry.
“bitches need to understand you don’t fuck with mc.” the words “bitches” has expanded to mean anyone that disagrees with me. it’s gender neutral, more often than not referring to men as i am addressing a “dude” right before that line. “learn your lesson dude a little less ineptitude”
DQ Blizzard - “let’s get our groove on before they outlaw fuckin” sexual repression in america is an epidemic that leads to discrimination, abuse and rape. an open dialogue might alleviate some of these symptoms.
“heir apparents on my carrot like they was jessica rabbit” sometimes words are used just because they rhyme. many rap songs feature oral sex, this is my nerdy way of expressing a hip hop motif.
“wonderin if im ever gonna fit in or be a son of a bitch with a gut and some tits or a roamin’ casonova with my dick in a clit” here i’m obviously a virgin nerd who has no idea what the female genitalia is exactly.
Ten Year Old - parody. early songs have more objectification becuase it’s more about hip hop than it is about me. i’m trying to brag about how sexually amazing i am, when in reality, there wasn’t any sex to speak of. i used the language of hip hop to get me through a time of very low self esteem which often times can be linked to nonexistant sexual activity. as my albums progress you can see that i rarely use the terms bitches and ho’s. what you have a problem with is what i was parodying: hip hop. obiovusly you won’t write any black rappers and cite examples of their mysogyny but you will with me because i’m white and it is somehow less appropriate for me express concepts that originated in hip hop.
MC Chris Ownz (also racist stereotypes in this one), i talk about latinas, and japanese women giving me head. i don’t see how this is a stereotype. i’m saying all women suck my dick. how is that racist? looks pretty equal opportunity to me. i also say i won’t fuck kids. this should be commended.
“there’s no need to believe in the heat that i keep, the swears that i bleep or the heiresses i freak.” ie everything is a lie, just like in hip hop.
Tractor Beam, consensual sex. which is also fantasy because it’s revealed that i masturbate instead of actually talking to anyone. even in the fantasy i’m still getting tested for STI’s. i’m very responsible in my fantasies.
FTW (slut/ho stereotypes), “ho’s want to fuck me” they don’t really. there’s a song called arulpragasam where i say “maybe i’m alone cuz i call these bitches ho’s” I think that sums up my stance on those words.
On* (as if the clit is the only way to satisfy a female, as if it is so difficult and such a hassle to sexually satisfy women), this song is about wanting to please a women but not really knowing how to. i think many men can identify with wanting to please a women, but not being able out of sheer ignorance. not sure where i say it’s “the only way.” and it can be difficult to please a woman, there were many years where i had no idea how to do it and many men can back me up on this period of ignorance. this song is about how inept and easily intimidated novice lovers can be. i feel like that’s life.
(So I’m sorry about the homophobic comment, but the rest of that is why I stopped listening to your music.)
you said i was racist and homophobic with nothing to back it up. you said i objectified women without understanding what was parody or satire. it sounds like you listened to a lot of my music for many years before you had a change of heart. there was a time when you probably understood its meaning and intention, but then you got wise and decided i had crossed a line. i took feminist anthropology in college. i understand the female perspective and i got a good grade in that class.
i strongly recommend you listen to my later works. count the bitches and ho’s per album and let me know if it goes down as i step away from hip hop and more into a music genre of my own design. try the children’s album. or race wars. tell me what direction i’m going in. or you can focus on my earlier works when i was more immature and truer to hip hop’s idiosyncrasies.